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Jokes adoptive parents won’t make
One difference between adoptive and biological parenting is what qualifies as funny. Obviously, there are hundreds of hideous adoption ‘jokes’ out there but I don’t mean those. I’m talking about...
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Mother’s Day painful for many
Mother’s Day means brunch, flowers, handmade crafts, or even fancy presents but lots of people find Mother’s Day something to be silently endured. Every Mother’s Day, I think of: Those, young or old,...
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On the bookshelf: The Open-Hearted way to Open Adoption
Or rather, off the bookshelf and in my hand. I’m in the middle of reading Lori Holden’s book: The Open Hearted Way to Open Adoption, which I open up every chance I get. What makes Lori’s book so...
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Vignette: Can I touch your hair?
Hands off his hair. I see her approach. She’s jogging. We recognize each other. We chat about running. I introduce Theo. She looks at him smiling, and then the gushing starts: “Oh I love your hair! My...
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Adoption documentary: Somewhere Between, a review
Somewhere Between (directed by Linda Goldstein Knowlton), which I saw on Netflix, follows four teenaged girls adopted from China into white families (one is mixed-race) in the US as babies or young...
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Closure, a poignant and captivating adoption documentary
Closure is a captivating and quick-paced documentary about a young woman (the sparkling Angela Tucker AKA @angeieadoptee) who seeks and finds members of her birthfamily. >> Filmmaker Bryan...
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What I learned in May
Daily blogging is a great way to recapture the writing mojo. Sometimes my May posts were big and heavy –a real struggle– and some just emerged in a heartbeat, fully formed. Parenthood makes me...
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Just adopt
Just adopt! “Just adopt.” I often hear these words of advice given to people trying to conceive or going through yet another round of IVF. Plus, let’s face it “there are so many kids in need of home,...
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Fatherhood is …
Fatherhood isn’t … A new tie or golf balls, cheap beer and televised sports, kitchen blunders and parenting mishaps. Nor is it DNA, genes or a biological connection. Fatherhood is … walking half-way...
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What I learned in June
1. June is not always Junuary! June in Vancouver is typically a horrifying blend of cold rain and darkness so this sunny June came as weather surprise. For the first time in years, we got to soak up...
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Vignette: “Why is everyone in here white?”
File this under ethnic confusion/identity/humour. Location: Vietnamese restaurant in East Vancouver Customers: Mark, Theo, a good number of Chinese/Vietnamese customers and a smattering of white...
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What I’ve learned about open adoption over the past four years
We first met Theo’s birthparents a few months before his birth, a sparkling May just over four years ago. His late July birth took place during the stickiest summer on record – a blur of thick wet...
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Look who’s four!
This guy! A rambunctious bundle of enthusiasm, energy, chatter and joie de vivre! Happy Birthday Theo! Read about The Day We Met 4 years ago.
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Moment 11: brown skin bonus
No burn suns here. We’re lolling on the warm wooden bench in front of the ice cream shop soaking up the golden light. A white woman with a grey dog sits beside us savoring her exquisite dish of...
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Moment 13: Little Fox
It’s been a non-stop day; and Theo is still wired. He wants to play ‘crash it’ with his superheroes but I kibosh the idea in favour of a book. It’s been a while since we’ve read an adoption story. I...
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Moment 14: Black Spider-Man strikes again
Theo is riding his bike downhill … FAST! He’s wearing his Spider-Man body suit and riding his shiny new Spider-Man bike in a moment of supreme Spidey overkill. But we don’t care. He’s out of the...
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